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bringing in home caregiversIs it time to bringing in home caregivers? Have you ever heard someone with Alzheimer’s call out, “Dad where are you?” Another example,  “Mom, come here!” Many have  the desire for a mother or father.  People with Alzheimer’s might simply be expressing that they want their dad.   Perhaps this describes your loved one, and you’re not sure how best to respond.

Many times the  caregivers will start to feel sad.  Furthermore, levels of frustration will begin.   First of all,  these feelings are perfectly normal.  Especially, true,  when the called for parent has passed a long time ago. It can be helpful to arm yourself with understanding about why this happens and have a couple of responses prepared to try to help your loved one

Understanding Why He’s Calling Out for His Mom

Bringing in home caregivers may be needed for parents with dementia.  First, look out for Cognitive Impairment.  For example, disorientation to time, place or even different people.  Again, Alzheimer’s will greatly increase the potential for confusion to skyrocket. Hence,  confusion may prevent loved ones from remembering basic facts.  For example,  that he’s older and that his mother died 15 years ago. H is no longer able  to do the math.  Furthermore, when  asking to think about his age of 92 and then to calculate how old his mom would be.   To sum up, caregivers need extra help. 

Therefore,  asking for sequentially thinking may be impossible.  Another example, trying to remember that her parents have already died will not work. Additionally, memory loss means current memories will fade away.  As Alzheimer’s progresses, that fading will always continue.  Finally,  erasing the years in a backwards manner.  To sum up,  the younger time in  life that is left in memory.
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Often, the Alzheimer’s sufferer will call out for their parents.  The reason,  because they are looking for the presence of a parent to provide needed security.  In addition, comforting reassurance in the new setting.   Again,  worried and anxious emotions and feelings.  Hence, a normal reaction for all of us if everything and everyone is unfamiliar.
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For example,  a little boy wanders off at the mall. All of the sudden, he looks around.  Then, begins to cry because he is now feeling lost.  Again, he doesn’t know where his mom is.  In addition, try not to treat a respected parent like a little kid.   Finally, it is often helpful to remind ourselves. “That is the lost feeling they are experiencing”.

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How to Respond in a Helpful Way

There are some ways to respond to loved one asks for dad or mom.   There are ways to reassure and comfort.   Trying to  meet loved one’s wants and needs can be reassured in  different ways. Help her focus on something different and enjoyable.

First, try this: “Dad would you like to go for a walk together?  I just really need a breath of fresh air and I’m sure you do, too. Let’s go for a walk through the neighborhood.  I always feel better after a nice walk, you will too. Can I get you a cookie to enjoy outside, too?  Dad, I really like to spend time with you.”  Hence, tips to better deal with Alzheimer’s sufferers.

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Sometimes, music therapy is a great tool.  Again, a therapy that will provide distraction as well as comfort. You can try turning on her favorite songs and singing them with her.  The familiarity of a remembered tune will often help provide that needed comfort.

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Occasionally, a situation develops where it’s just better to be more direct and honest, even when it can hurt. For example, if your loved one is worried about her mother or father and believes that they’re sick or in danger, it might be helpful, if they persist in their worries, to tell them that the person has already passed away so that they aren’t anxious anymore about them.

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In general, this approach is not recommended because it can potentially trigger the person to begin the grieving process all over again for the loss of the parent. However, in my clinical experience, there have been times where it actually provided relief for the person with Alzheimer’s because they could set their anxieties aside.

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